My last post I'll make on this since we're all going around in circles. Like I said initially I'm new to GTA RPing so I don't have a lot of hours online just due to when I've been available to play but I've been able to poke around the forums and read reports and complaints that people post. I think the best way I can think of to sum up my points is that just because you haven't broken any rules (even though you did) doesn't mean that your RP is good enough. I read the rules as the baseline for the expectations, breaking them is bad but strictly obeying them doesn't equal good RP.
Pulling from your last post for example, you mentioned that "one was in his car not engaging in the RP at all" - this is you making a determination as that something is safe for strictly on a player level, you're treating the other cop as out of play on a player level but from your characters perspective there are two cops there and you need to make the determination based on that second cop being someone who could drop you, in addition to the other people who were there who had guns.