For me, I stay away from a lot of shooting stuff because I don't understand it. There are times where I REALLY, REALLY wanna kill someone because they are picking on my friends and shit talking or my character just feels scared, but the thing is, I can't understand what is DM and what isn't. There is no training, I am not sure where to go to ask questions, I am not sure when I can pull my gun. Someone started stabbing my friends and I wanted to shoot him, but I did not know if I could or not because he wasn't attacking me. I find the DM rule too vague. As someone who has trouble understanding rules and can't see the grey due to disabilities, I cannot tell when I can and can't shoot. I also find the whole "you can get permanently banned for literally anything you do" a bit restrictive since there is no way to ask questions and no one to train new players or whatever is necessary for them. If someone joins a server who has never RP'd in their life, they should be able to ask admin questions or be trained at least a little bit or something or be able to be placed in a spot where they can just figured out the server's emotes and animations and learn which ones they like and want to use.
I think if you want higher quality rp, then staff needs to train players or allow some way to get a Q/A response. This way, players can know when and when they can't do something. Then during training, they should tell players to act out and rp and then the admin will tell them what was against the rules and what they should have done and help them do better RP. I would feel A HELLUVA lot lot more comfortable with shooting if I knew specifically what was realistic and what wasn't. I also feel like eclipse is a bit hyper realistic with the DM rules. The whole "you cant shoot at someone in a moving vehicle" is kinda vague because that means I can't shoot to get my vehicle back and I have to let him steal it even if I see him drive off. I think the rules need better and clearer examples that are separate scenarios of what is and isnt breaking the rules.